I (23M) so far know three people who became parents under 21.

Well, actually, one of them will turn 21 this week with her baby being born any day now, but still. She’s pregnant and it’s possible that her son will be born a few days before or on her 21st birthday. But I don’t know the exact date. Another friend of mine was 19 at the time of his son’s birth. And one more was 20 at the time of her son’s birth.

As for that one 19-year-old, I feel bad for him given that he was a homeschooler and he didn’t do much homework. I was homeschooled as well , but at least I actually learned stuff. I don’t even know if he’s in college yet since we lost touch with each other.

I feel bad for any people who become parents in their teens and early 20s. Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against people who have sex in this timeframe, but please do it safely and with birth control if you’re going to do it. Even more so if you live in a state in which abortion is now illegal.

They have effectively sacrificed all sorts of life experiences and tons of money at that early age. At the same time, I kind of feel prideful in the sense that I can keep going in living the life I want to live and having the money to do just that.

To put this into perspective, my mother was 30 and my father was 29 when I was born. So they had plenty of time to live life before parenthood.

Surely, I can’t be the only one who feels smug at the idea of not having kids at 23 and beyond. Does anyone else feel the same way?

I (23M) so far know three people who became parents under 21.