Sister is having a baby girl. I should be more excited than I am.

My older sister had her Gender Reveal today for her second child. She, her husband, and firstborn son are very much Evangelicals who buy into the traditional gender roles for boys and girls thanks to my dad and step-mom. My nephew is 22 months and has been lavished in love and praise by both sides of his family. My BIL’s side has no boys and his nieces are 7-10 as far as I can remember so nephew’s been treated like a king. He’s a lovely little boy but their adherence to societal standards is A Lot. I have a niece from my brother’s side who is a feisty, independent, and beautiful little three-year-old. My dad and step-mom love her, but there’s definitely a stark difference in how she’s been treated compared to my nephew.

My sister’s second child is a girl; she’s due in January. I already know this poor girl will be seen as second class in society’s eyes. I’m worried she’s gonna get the shaft the same way my other niece has. I’m worried she’s only gonna be told she’s pretty but not courageous, kind, or intelligent. I’m worried she’s going to have no personality beyond “I need a husband”. I already love my new niece, but my heart breaks for her.

Sister is having a baby girl. I should be more excited than I am.