Hi everyone, I am a 16 year girl and I have pretty much decided I don’t want kids, I feel indefferent towards most children and I really dislike the idea of having one of my own. I just have different objecives, my ideal of a life is not having a typical office job and then coming home to two or three children, I don’t want to be tied for life emotionally and financially to a human being. I recently discovered this sub, and I’ve read loads of posts of users telling their experiences with other people being annoying, and telling them that they will change their mind, and I felt lucky that I have never had someone telling me that.
Well, yesterday it happened for the first time. I was with my aunt and she was talking to my sister and us about ”being careful with marrying too late because then you can have difficulties trying to have children”, and I mentioned that that is not a worry for me because I do not want children, and even tho she first said that that is a respectable life choice, then she started with the ”you will change your mind when you fall in love and marry”
I understand she is from another generation but that point of view just annoys me so so much. Why do some people act like being a parent is the only possible lifestyle and what we are all destinated to do? What the hell is this idea that ”when you are married you will change your mind”? Being in love will make me like kids more, will make me change all my dreams and life goals? Is that an implication that people don’t actually become parents because they wish to do so and are happy to raise a child even with the difficulties that come with that but because of the ideal of a ”happy complete family” and because they are ”love-crazed”?
Anyways just wanted to rant a bit. It makes me sad to know that it probably won’t be the last time I am told that…