I just had a vacation with my siblings and two of them have toddlers and I am completely traumatized. I had no idea having a child was that bad, I don’t remember it being that bad with my younger cousins. I’m not sure if my siblings are over attentive or not but there was not a single moment of them being themselves, every waking second was in care of their toddlers. They couldn’t talk or rest or be. I was there with my child free partner but it wasn’t fun for us. I love my siblings and it was like being expected to have fun on a beach while watching people I care about be tortured in the parking lot. I did want to relieve them and help but doing that was exhausting and the children were SO bonded to the parents they would cry and try to find their parent no matter what. I felt awful and helpless. My one sibling doesn’t want any more children, one and done, but my other wants a second and I’m completely perplexed: how/why would anyone ever ever want this. Or anyone in the throes of this want more. It’s the most unhappy I’ve ever seen them: it’s the most unhappy I’ve ever seen anyone.